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I regard myself as a fairly tough cookie, but not in an all-round sense. I can sometimes be emotional and in many ways I am this strange mix of ambition and complacency. Talent and stupidity. I have been through a lot I guess, but much of it I haven’t noticed… people commend me for some of my achievements, but I did them just because they needed doing. Most of the really notable ones were not about me but others. Sometimes I look at my life and feel like I have sold myself short, in looking after others I have not done a great job looking after myself, especially financially. I worry about my future and where I will be at, but then balance that against the value of what I am doing at the moment and decided I think it is important and hope to the gods everything will just work out. Here’s hoping.
But the last couple of weeks have been really tough. People here will know (if any of them are left) I have a problem with my eyesight. I started a new business late last year and it is going well, but I had a bleed in one of my eyes the other week and my eyesight has become poorer yet again. I feel like almost anything I do is sitting on a house of cards and if I fall over, I get up and get a while where I start to jog, only to fall over.
I guess I am tired. It takes a lot of energy to try to stay positive. It takes a lot of energy to run a business, and I am involved in three, one in distress and one start up. It takes the most energy to lead, and I have leadership roles in … I dunno… six organisations (voluntary half of them) Finding decent successors is really hard, incredibly rewarding when it happens, but hard. And the pettiness and small-mindedness takes so much energy to overcome and the frustration of stupid actions leaving to inevitable results despite warnings.
Sometimes I just feel like throwing in the towel and giving up. Especially when there seems no space to hide from life’s demands.
Ever feel like that ?
If you do, what do you do to overcome it. Me.. I usually look for a bit of alone time.. but I cant think of the last time I got any
But the last couple of weeks have been really tough. People here will know (if any of them are left) I have a problem with my eyesight. I started a new business late last year and it is going well, but I had a bleed in one of my eyes the other week and my eyesight has become poorer yet again. I feel like almost anything I do is sitting on a house of cards and if I fall over, I get up and get a while where I start to jog, only to fall over.
I guess I am tired. It takes a lot of energy to try to stay positive. It takes a lot of energy to run a business, and I am involved in three, one in distress and one start up. It takes the most energy to lead, and I have leadership roles in … I dunno… six organisations (voluntary half of them) Finding decent successors is really hard, incredibly rewarding when it happens, but hard. And the pettiness and small-mindedness takes so much energy to overcome and the frustration of stupid actions leaving to inevitable results despite warnings.
Sometimes I just feel like throwing in the towel and giving up. Especially when there seems no space to hide from life’s demands.
Ever feel like that ?
If you do, what do you do to overcome it. Me.. I usually look for a bit of alone time.. but I cant think of the last time I got any
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Re: Ever feel like just giving up ?
Mon, July 16, 2012 - 4:54 AMDo I ever feel like that?
Yes, many of times. But unlike a video game, I can't turn it off!
When i was a teen, to young adult, I was highly suicidal. Many of reasons and incidents to believe my life was above average intense, but the choices I made, made it even more intense, lol! Any way for once I found myself in hospital. I could have easily slipped away, god knows how many times I had tried over the years,... In the end I made a conscience derision to stay alive and not for me . It has been 5 years now were I proved the doctors wrong 3 different times, and yes there are days and weeks that I wonder what the hell was I thinking, but then again, I remember I was the one who made those choices, and each time I take on a new & more difficult challenge to achieve and complete. I know it is always a test when your body reminds you, but that is when one must make sure the priorities must be juggled to make time to get over being tiered and feeling overwhelmed.. Besides, what good are we when there is nothing left of ourselves to give?
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Re: Ever feel like just giving up ?
Wed, July 18, 2012 - 9:22 AMHi Bloke,
I agree with ESS you have to prioritise your own rest time.
It sounds like after a rest you could benifit from a re evaluation of all that you do. Its well understood that if you spread your self too thin you will have a problem doing anything effectively. My experience has taught me that with out delegation of work to others I can only concentrate on one thing at a time. We joke in the UK that blokes cant think of more than one thing at a time, and women can, but joking aside I think this is a human quality. If you are a manager then you focus on managing a team of people all doing different things. If you are making something, and you want to get it finished you have to work on that thing until its finished.
You have to prioritise to achieve goal 1 then anything better is a bonus.
If you feel you dont have the energy at achive your objective, that sound as if your objective is too complex.
Hope thats helpful
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Re: Ever feel like just giving up ?
Wed, July 18, 2012 - 9:23 AMPS Dont give up!
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Re: Ever feel like just giving up ?
Wed, July 18, 2012 - 11:59 AMSorry, I had to to finish this, Bloke you had asked about what one does to for help....
Besides finally making the time to recover, music! Music is my favorite thing. I pull out all of the good stuff that made me feel like I could conquer the world when I was a teenager, I put it on loud and dance away all night until I feel great.
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Re: Ever feel like just giving up ?
Wed, July 18, 2012 - 4:56 PMThanks for the responses... I found a great solution - I gave up :)
Went away for the weekend.. no email, and phone turned to only answer friends and family calls, staying in a place where mobile coverage was no good.
Had a great dinner in a small regional town on the Friday night... Listened to live music
Saturday, read in front of the open fire, then did some wineries, then spent 4 hours on a friends couch drinking 3 beers and chatting about nothing.
Sunday, big sleep in and just lurking about. Collected some firewood and fixed a car.
Monday .. stopped giving up and back into the fray, but refreshed and ready to go.
One of the problems I have is that I am availbile day and night (need to be) and over the weekends (also often need to do that). I remember years ago while out for dinner, I turned my mobile off.. This was when they were a status symbol. The person I was with commented on it and I said "If I am important enough to have a mobile phone, then I am important enought to turn it off". Sometimes I am good at that. I also dont have internet access at home - it stops me working there... but I just let things get on top of me and forgot the saying - if you want to eat an elephant you need to do it one bite a time...
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Re: Ever feel like just giving up ?
Fri, July 20, 2012 - 8:20 PMBloke, I have a WILD set of guidelines which are fun to follow and keep me in the mix.
You've seen them on my blog, I'm sure, but I'll share here, too.
1. Inspired by Winston Churchill: "Never give up, never give in, never surrender."
2. Inspired by the theme song from 'Sons of Anarchy": "Gotta look that life in the eye. Gotta live that life, until you die"
3. The final guideline is two words that I regard as what life is all about: Chinese downhill. There are NO rules. Thus you have to adapt, improvise, and overcome. Semper Gumby (Always flexible) and all that.
As a full time geologist, I have to investigate by choice and discover by chance. I 'geologize' by profession.
Every human being can develop his or her own guidelines - do what WORKS, and stick to them.
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