insulting jokes and sarcasm: a tool of dishonesty

self-theraputic.. much like inhaling plant burnings into their lungs.. and I want to discuss it and I would like to know how other's view sarcasm

mmmmm, sarcasm.


mmmmmmmmmmm, plant burnings......

Well, humor as a buffer is ,for me, my defense in a way against the world. I learned it as a kid, it's a great coping tool in it's way.

And yes, sometimes you should hold back in honesty. Let me see if I can clearly explain it..

There are times when I see a behavior in someone I really find to be annoying, like oh... like I have a rl friend who tends to go toward being challenging in conversations with other people when that other person really doesn't want a confrontation. Whatever their conversation partner said isn't really worth a , it was just a comment made in small talk and not worth a sudden barrage of questions. My friend is a very lovely person and doesn't engage in this behavior all the time. However, when he does, it becomes awkward and rather irritating to everyone else in the conversation. I have seen him do this often enough that I feel as his friend, it may not be amiss in me saying something to him about it. Now, I could go the blunt route and say" Hey, dude, you need to back off and stop being challenging for no disernable reason. People are being to think you are a dick, and I am not stopping them much, as I am beginning to think you are acting like a dick too."
Or I could use my humor skills and ask how that beein his bonnet was taking to life in it's new bonnety surrounding as it seems to be buzzing up a storm as of late. Hopefully, something cleverer than that, but you get the jist.

Humor can be that pointy stick just as bluntness can be, but with humor you wrap some witty bubble wrap around the pointy stick tip and poke a bit gentler.


Something I do see in society and especially television is this revelry in mean ill spirited humor. People poking mean spirited not so fun at people who can't defend themselves. Or glorifying in the weaknesses and failings of others, i.e. the very public falling apart of Britney Spears and people like that.

I find that sort of humor a bit too easy, myself and am actually embarrassed for the ones who resort to this sort of humor. Clever humor takes time and energy to point out the fallibles and silliness of human nature and people. Mean spirited insults and jokes just shows you are too lazy to try harder.
There are people who can do that sort of hmor well and many a comedian has made a career out of do ing this well.
However, I do think people lean on it too much and we dont always think of the consequences of it all. It sort of demeans all of us, really.

Sorry for the babble. I had a long day at the mechanics,paying for his new flat screen tv.