quel wrote:
>"When you get down to it, I have a hard time believing these men are being hoodwinked though. "<

I really don't think the men are being hoodwinked. The honesty part was ment for the women..

Rather than titling it "Millionaire Matchmaker" perhaps it should be "High Priced Hookers R Us"

JSin

<<am currently injured and too tired >>

Hope you're okay.. .

Of course most of the ladies who meet that special sugerdaddy will be posting on this website soon after.

www.ashleymadison.com/app/pub...ess/15.p

"Oh go on, put up a short-assed post...."

Honey, you know l don't do short posts. ;) Blokie, thanks for the well wishes, just sprained my trick knee again, but did it good, and was on painkillers and shit so l couldn't think straight.

l follow every single dating show they put out there, regardless of how stupid it may be, mainly because l never, ever fail to learn something valuable that l can use myself. There's always an example or clip to be found that l could use to illustrate a point. Note: l'm not talking about shit like the Bachelor, l'm talking Blind Date, The Pickup Artist, *dating* shows. Not "l want to find my true love and screw over 11 people to get there" shows. Those are fucking stupid.

Millionaire Matchmaker is the ONLY dating show l haven't cared to watch a whole lot of. She and l share some basic rules about what is and isn't acceptable, and l'll give her that credit.

"I caught a bit of that show "Millionaire Match Maker"... ew. I can't think of a less genuine way of trying to find a spouse. The guy: must be millionaire and follow the rules of displaying wealth and pampering woman. The gal: must be beautiful and cater to millionaire's ego; intelligence and personal ambition optional and maybe even frowned upon."

Millionaires are people too. Trite as that sounds, allow me to elaborate. Men are naturally driven to ambition; it's the biological need to provide for mates and offspring. ln this day and age, it's pretty common that if that isn't a man's driving factor, it's having money so a woman will want him, because he believes that's what women want. l think we all know money doesn't matter to a number of women out there as much as the world thinks it does, but unfortunately, there are more women out there who do consider wealth a priority, either because they are lazy and don't want to work, or simply because they are independent and making their own money themselves, and don't want to support their mate/spouse. The latter makes for a healthier woman, obviously, but unfortunately, what this show does is foster the insecurities of both the men and the women involved, and this is where l start having issues.

l feel for a man who, for whatever reason, is constantly dealing with gold-diggers because he's wealthy. He may be wealthy for the simple reason that *he* just wanted to be secure, girlfriend or not. l don't think that's an unhealthy goal, and if he has the drive and ambition, more power to him! The problem is that every single female that comes on the show knows full well ahead of time that she'll be meeting very wealthy bachelors, and that is bound to screw up the dynamic. l always thought "Joe Millionaire" (the elimination show where the main guy pretends to be a millionaire, but makes something like 20 grand a year) was interesting. You find out when he picks his final girl that she is pissed about finding out he's not a millionaire. lt's not clear if she's pissed because he lied to her, or because he didn't have all that money, but either way, every single girl on there was there because she was under the impression he had money.

Now, if Millionaire Matchmaker followed the opposite of that premise, and refrained from telling the women it brought in that he had money, the men would be more likely to find women of substance, and the women wouldn't have a motive right off the bat, and that's where l think a business like that would fail. lt's true that most of these men are looking for young and flashy; there's one episode where she meets a male client who's looking for an older, driven, nonmaterialistic woman, and the minute he meets all the women there, he goes for the young, buxom, and vapid chick. This is a flaw (among several) on the matchmaker's part; yes, he should have really been honest about what he was looking for, but you put a young buxom chick with an older, maybe a little less attractive one (no matter how sharp her mind is), and he's far more likely to go for the former. l don't mean that as an insult to the men here or anywhere else that really DO look for substance; it's just the flash, and it's hard to ignore. What the matchmaker should have done was found women in the age range he wanted (mid-late 30's) and given him NOTHING but that. Problem solved, pick the one that suits you best, and you're still getting precisely what you said you were looking for.

All that said, while l may end up with some pretty wealthy clients at some point, l intend to downplay their wealth. lt's one thing if you say you have money and don't and then tell someone that after you've begun a relationship; that's dishonest and rude, and no matter her motives, it's flat out deception. lt's yet another to downplay your money without lying, and inform her only when you've established something of substance that you have more money than you let on. Any woman who is with you for your character and not your wallet is only likely to be pleasantly surprised to find out that you're better off than she thought, and is likely to understand why you didn't want to flaunt your wealth in the first place.

l *will* say that one of the things l like about the matchmaker is that she'll straight out tell her female clients they look trashy if they do, and will try to instill a little class without just letting them slide. Likewise, she's pretty blunt with her male clients. She crosses the line between blunt and bitchy fairly often, and that's a problem l have with her (among the many), but at least she says it outright, and is often telling them exactly what they need to hear.

"When you get down to it, I have a hard time believing these men are being hoodwinked though."

Yeah, they're not.

"You know the women are specifically looking for millionaires and if you can't find a good woman on your own when you're not struggling, one has to wonder..."

Yeah, but there are plenty of men out there who have been so busy making money that they haven't spent any time working on how to find a good woman. Money or no, it's harder for men to get dates. Most women can get one without much trouble. Money isn't really the factor here, finally; they're still men who have no clue how to really relate to a woman. Regardless of how vapid she may be.

ooooooh, I haven't read a good long ali response in a while. I can't wait.....
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LOL!!!!

That's cuz Ali's been busy and injured and dealing with various medical issues and oh, life. But l'm very flattered, and hey, it's nice to see YOU posting over here regularly!!! {{{{{Taz}}}}}

Good question Wild. I mean, just making money is pretty pointless and meaningless too, and then the guy wants sex with a trophy wife to give HIS miserable life meaning.

On the other hand, all of us are searching for meaning....

I have heard in a number of circles that in general a man will date the best woman he can afford.

JSin

Tink >> It seemed as if she felt she deserved more, now that she felt she looked better. <<

Perhaps it was not that she felt that she deserved more, but rather she might have felt she could get more. Being able to get more is not the same as deserving it.