on sarcasm (part II)

Maybe Fifi needs a hug.

!Alex! - Why don't you like to answer direct questions relevant to the discussion such as..."Since the truth can also sometimes be painful to hear do you advocate dishonesty?" Why are you avoiding answering this question?

As for you question - "Fifi, why you don't like to disclose your feelings?".... (First I'll note that you wrote that in such a way that it's half sentence half statement...listen/read actively and many things become obvious. Unless, of course, you could also be someone's Italian grandmother just immigrated from the old country too.)

I don't mind disclosing my feelings, most of the time they're actually pretty obvious because I don't go out of my way to hide how I feel about things. Sometimes I positively revel in share my feelings (not that everyone else always approves or appreciates this depending on how much they enjoy particular emotions or expressions of emotions in others). I express my feelings not only in my everyday life but through art and writing as well. You've made a huge leap and assumption that just because I don't want to answer your question (which I both feel and think is lame and not even really appropriate here) that I therefor don't like to disclose my feelings.

In some ways it's almost aggressive (albeit in a rather passive way) to insist that others share their feelings with you. It's definitely intrusive and disrespectful when it's insistent, or at least that's the way I see it. It lacks a respect for the boundaries of others and presumes a right to intimacy that hasn't been built over time and through loving action. Hell, I don't even think my significant other should have to tell me how they feel if they don't want to - other people's interior worlds are their business until there's a mutual decision to share. Do you believe you have a right to know how everyone else feels about everything all the time? Do you feel you have the right to intrude on people's interior worlds? To know what they're feeling because you have a need or desire for this knowledge?

Feelings are transient and not always even relevant to what's been said, and I highly doubt that telling you my feelings would actually enlighten you as to what I meant (it may even lead you to make more assumptions that will just lead you to be even more off the mark and lacking in understanding of what I actually meant). If you don't understand something about the comment why don't you just say what you don't understand and then I can offer you clarification (if I feel like it, of course).

Besides, who the hell remembers how they felt when they posted something on the internet a couple of days ago? It's hardly a significant emotional moment!

Now, how about answering the question I've asked a couple of times? You can even tell me how you feel when you answer the question if you feel you really need to and if it makes it an experience more to your liking.