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Touchstones: From Extreme World Domination

topic posted Mon, March 31, 2008 - 3:24 PM by  JSin
Are there any "Touchstones you use to decide if someone is likely to be compatible with you be it friends, lovers or partners what have ya.

Some movies that tend to tell me a lot about someone are:
Phantom of the Paradise
The Princess Bride
The Boondock Saints
Any Mel Brooks Movie
Any Monty Python Movie

Musicians:
Leonard Cohan
Lou Reed and The Velvet Underground
Red Hot Chili Peppers
George Clinton and Parliament Funkadelic

Visual Arts:
Marcel DuChamp
Pollock
Van Gogh

How a person responds to these tells me a lot about their sensibilities and their interactions with "reality" as it were
Are there tools you utilize to figure out folks out?

JSin
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  • Re: Touchstones: From Extreme World Domination

    Mon, March 31, 2008 - 3:35 PM
    please tell me you go deeper than just those things, J Sin.

    and btw, according to your list - AKA touchstones of decision -
    i'm only 6/12

    so i guess we should just ignore each other now.

    *insert sarcasm smiley here*


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    • JSin
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      Re: Touchstones: From Extreme World Domination

      Mon, March 31, 2008 - 3:47 PM
      I do go deeper... The list are things that I look at in terms of response... They don't have to absolutely love them or even like them... But rather their response tells me about them.

      Do I expect them to Love the work of Leonard Cohan for example??/ No Not at all, but if someone is completely dismissive of someone who has been influential in my life and formation of my Aesthetic then there probably is going to be other issues down the line.

      Other stuff like Dada and Anti Art are fertile areas of discussion. I would not mind if someone did not share my perspective. If they can discuss it then it may be in and of itself some basis for interaction.

      Does that make sense?

      JSin
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    Re: Touchstones: From Extreme World Domination

    Mon, March 31, 2008 - 3:52 PM
    /Sigh... Ok, just to cover WildApache's concerns, of course anybody can work around these movies and into my heart, but they're still red flags during initial encounters.

    The Dudes (the ladies can get around these on account of boobs and stuff but it's massive bonus points if they like 'em (the movies, that is...Well, and boobs...)):

    The 300
    Kill Bill
    Memento
    Sin City
    Resevoir Dogs
    The Big Libowski

    The Ladies:
    Hot Rod
    Anchorman
    The Prestige
    Pulp Fiction
    Baraka
    Being John Malchovich

    Bonus for either gender:
    Tron
    2001: A Space Odyssey
    Soylent Green
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      Re: Touchstones: From Extreme World Domination

      Mon, March 31, 2008 - 3:59 PM
      13/15...
      looks like we can still be friends, Josh.

      movies aren't the type of thing i have requirements regarding,
      although they are certainly a source of entertainment and good
      conversation, in many cases... but that's about it.
      i'm a movie buff, but i don't expect everyone to be.

      art and music i wouldn't DREAM of using as any kind of prerequisite,
      as i believe they're deeply personal and whether or not other people
      relate to it is irrelevant.
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  • Re: Touchstones: From Extreme World Domination

    Mon, March 31, 2008 - 4:16 PM
    Once upon a time I might have said yes, but like I said in the Extreme World Domination thread my partner still doesn't think the Princess Bride is all that great. He had a hard time not seeing it as trying to but not quite measuring up to Monty Python. He doesn't hate it and will watch it with me but he doesn't love it like I do. Still in the end that hasn't meant a thing for our relationship, so I have to wonder if any of that stuff should in any friendship/relationship I might be considering.

    Funny because once upon a time I was the girl who fell for a guy because he liked Mudhoney and Stiff Little Fingers.
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  • Mammoth
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    Re: Touchstones: From Extreme World Domination

    Mon, March 31, 2008 - 9:56 PM
    How a person reacts to the movie "Happiness" tells me a lot about what I can and can't say around them . . . doesn't necessarily lead to bonding, but sometimes.
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    • Josh
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      Re: Touchstones: From Extreme World Domination

      Tue, April 1, 2008 - 7:31 AM
      "How a person reacts to the movie "Happiness" tells me a lot about what I can and can't say around them . . . doesn't necessarily lead to bonding, but sometimes."

      Wow, I only saw Hapiness the one time. Not because it wasn't good but because it was SO FUCKING GOOD. It's in a fairly short list of movies so powerful I can go a really, really long time without seeing them again. But I always recommend them to people who haven't seen them.

      Hapiness
      Magnolia (anybody else cry a little at the end of this one?)
      Of Mice and Men (John Malcovich's version)
      Being John Malcovich (coincidence?!?)
      Leaving Las Vegas
      Requiem for a Dream
      The Elephant Man (Lynch's version and his finest work, imo)
      Slingblade
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      • Re: Touchstones: From Extreme World Domination

        Tue, April 1, 2008 - 12:03 PM
        I could only see Slingblade once too. That movie got to me as well.

        You know, there were a couple of moments in Magnolia when I wanted to punch PTA in the head for making that movie and letting me waste my time sitting through it but then for some reason it seemed to all work by the end and I ended up liking the whole journey. I sort of felt the same way about Dancer in The Dark.
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        • Mammoth
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          Re: Touchstones: From Extreme World Domination

          Tue, April 1, 2008 - 2:09 PM
          OMG Dancer in the Dark I can never ever watch again. Sooooo freaking sad, but haunting and lovely all the same. Bjork said she would never act again after that, b/c it was too painful. I don't think she has acted in anything since then.
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